Well today is my 11th anniversary. The
children are in bed, and I'm sitting on mine. It has been a funny old day.
I was woken up this morning by my daughter
getting into bed with us. She still does this quite regularly; (at 5 years old
should I be seeing this as a problem? Well even if I should, I don't). Shortly
after that, my husband disappeared from the house. I did think this was strange
at the time, but it didn't really concern me. I remained upstairs watching
television with the children trying to have a lie-in (ooh I remember those); I
didn't pay much attention to the various noises and smells that seem to be coming from downstairs.
However, soon after appeared tray with a full English breakfast for me. Well it
was a good job I was sitting on the bed or I think I may have fallen over. Flabbergasted
I think it's the word. I'm pretty sure my face said that to. Breakfast in bed for me? What for? It's just
an ordinary day right?
Shortly after that appeared a bottle of
wine for me to enjoy later, yet more shock. I think by now the bit of horror
was also creeping in, at the back of my head I'm thinking ‘he better not expect anything from me’.
So I'm doing a lot of thinking this morning
and I’m constantly wondering, ‘what is going on? Is he making an effort? Why is he making an effort now? Should I be
making an effort? I don’t want to make an effort, maybe I should get him some
socks.’
This all happened before 10 AM, I was
seriously conflict it and it wasn't even midday. So usually when he would've
been getting ready for work on a Saturday I noticed no movement, so I asked, aren't you going to work, the reply was
no. Yet more shock and more horror touched with dread! So I go upstairs to have
5 min to myself, really wondering he's
decided to make an effort why now? I head back downstairs and he's watching
Formula One and I can't help but think, he's staying home has nothing to do
with me it's more to do with Formula One.
So I go about my days normal, kids
activities, shopping, washing loads of ironing and it around 3PM he disappears
and as I see him again until after 6 this is normal I'm not used to having him
around. I'm used to not having him around; truthfully I'm happier when he's not
around.
He asked me a few random questions that
make it clear to me he plans a night out. I'm not surprised by this in fact it
brings a smile to my face. On his way out he says ‘I will be back in a bit’, I replied ‘I'll see you in the morning’. His reply ‘I shouldn't be too long I want to watch the boxing’. How did I not
burst out laughing I will never know, but I did smile.
So there you go it's my 11th wedding anniversary
no, it's our 11th wedding anniversary and I'm home alone with my kids and I
couldn't be happier.
The children and I have had a lovely day
sun, ice lollies (that they insist I open regardless of how busy I am) and
playing it's been a good day.
I thought today I would cry, I thought they
be lots of tears, navel gazing, and gnashing of teeth however, I’ve smiled,
I've laughed and played. The world still turning and am okay.
Today everything feels achievable, today I
feel hopeful. I hope it last.
Oh yes, there have been absolutely no tears.